Working with Children
I find working with children so enjoyable because their imagination can easily create the solution just as easily as it created the problem.
Allowing the child in myself to come out to play with them helps build their trust and confidence in me and I am not afraid to be just as silly as them sometimes. In my therapy room helping the child to understand the workings of their mind can be fun and give them the control they need to make the changes for themselves.
I’m sure as a parent or guardian you know yourself how a perfectly good suggestion can be snubbed and rebelled against and make the relationship tense and add to anxieties with both parties. When problems are encountered especially with teenagers, asking them ‘what’s wrong’ rarely results in a straightforward answer. The best you can sometimes expect is ‘I dunno’ and a shrug of the shoulders.
Using my experience and knowledge my questions are framed in such a way as to identify the causes of their issues even when they themselves have been unaware. It is very common for the parent to be unaware of the child’s thoughts or anxieties and it is only my carefully planned questioning and therapy techniques that enable both parties to communicate in a more helpful way. There is absolutely no need for the adult to feel guilty in any way about this as what really matters is that we all work together as a team to accomplish the same goal and that is helping the child to cope better.
It may seem that being silly and laughing is not deemed to be professional or therapeutic but it is quite the opposite. It can help their mind to relax enough for new ideas and thought patterns to form.
There are so many reasons why a child or teenager feels unhappy; sad; lonely; upset; guilty; embarrassed; anxious or stressed, such as: lack of confidence/performance anxieties concerns about changes in their bodies problems in school, with studies, teachers or peers phobias, i.e. fear of the dark, going to sleep, doctors, dentists, needles, etc.embarrassment of habits like bed-wetting or thumb sucking a new baby or parental relationship problems
Some of the signs indicating anxiety could be:
consistent health problems, food control problems, telling lies, stealing, drugs or alcohol abuse, trouble sleeping, frequent nightmares or sleep walking, being unusually quiet, wetting the bed, being bullied, lack of concentration, weight loss or gain, anger, a feeling of being generally sad, self harm, are but a few.
I have helped children overcome many challenges and it is important to remember that a child’s mind is not as rational as an adults mind which may cause pointless and irritating issues from the adults perspective. Some parents/guardians find it difficult to understand the child’s problems for this reason and this is where my therapy is so advantageous. The problems have been created by the child’s mind so in therapy we use the child’s mind to create the solution.
Children can respond particularly well to hypnotherapy as long as they are happy to work with me and they perceive there is a problem which they wish to find a solution. On the rare occasion I feel I can not help then I am honest and open and will inform both parties involved. It may be because the child is showing symptoms that therapy would, in my opinion, be non helpful i.e schizophrenia, psychosis or needing medical attention.
Testimonial from a parent
I know my daughter has already contacted you but I wanted to say a huge thank you too. Can’t believe that she finally got her injections yesterday. If you want reviews etc or even want a parent to speak to other parents – let me know first as I will be happy to. Thank you again.
I usually work with children aged 8 years and over. I would strongly suggest an initial consultation with parents first to discuss a child’s issues, as it’s important that everyone understands how change comes about. It is possible to have the initial consultation all together too so the child can have the support of input to relative answers when needed. However, the first hypnotherapy session is on a one to one basis providing the child is compliant and comfortable with the suggestion.
I work to a professional and moral understanding and explain that client confidentiality still applies with children. In the event I am concerned for the health or safety of the child I will inform the parent/guardian but would hope that the child and myself would be able to so together before I am forced to do so independently. It is also worth mentioning that I do hold a Criminal Record Bureau check certificate (CRB check test) for your reassurance and security.
Testimonial from a client aged 14 years
Before I started hypnotherapy I could barely go out shopping without having anxieties and I was really miserable as I couldn’t do a lot of things that I thought I would enjoy. Since I started seeing Lisa and working on my anxieties, I have joined a new athletics club and am doing everting I want with my friends and on my own with out feeling insecure. Lisa has helped me so much and I am so happy that I decided to have hypnotherapy as it has helped me overcome many things and I am now much happier.
Children are naturally more prone to anxiety as they are still learning how to assess situations and communicate their needs and process emotions. Because of this a child’s anxiety can be triggered from a tiny problem and become a very scary huge problem very quickly simply because of their active imagination. Using their own thoughts and personality I use hypnotherapy to help them regain perspective.
Here’s a list of just a few things I have helped children with
A fear of wearing contact lenses
Wanting to play with friends more
Wanting to be able to put their hand up in class
Being comfortable in the school dinning room
Coping with being bullied
Frustration and anger
Wanting to eat different foods
Wanting to stay in their bedroom by themselves
Fear of the dark
Fear of dogs
Wanting more confidence with friends